The soul icon Aretha Franklin who sadly passed away in August 2018 at the age of 76, gave us the signature song “RESPECT” which became a hit in 1976.

Whenever I think of the word ‘RESPECT’, these lyrics come to mind……..

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me

R-E-S-P-E-C-T take care, TCB, oh……

(Sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me)

A little respect

(sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me)

This song reminds us of the importance of respect in any form of relationship.

7 Easy Ways to Show Respect

In social work, we form relationships with the people we support. To build any successful and working relationship, we need to realise the importance of showing respect.

So, let us explore a bit more.

What is Respect?

Respect is the way we treat or think about someone or something. It involves accepting someone for who they are, and having a deep admiration for someone regardless of their beliefs or if you agree or disagree with them.

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Relationship Between Social Work Theories and Respect

Carl Rogers (1902-1987) was an American psychologist and a founder of the humanistic, or person-centred, approach. He introduced the idea of collaborators in a working relationship where the client’s values are respected.

According to Carl Rogers, for a successful relationship to be formed, there should be unconditional positive regard. This means that the clients do not need to prove that they deserve your respect but have inherent worth. When this happens, the relationship will be more productive as the person you are working with will feel accepted for who they are.

Likewise, respect from others enables us to express ourselves and feel safe but, how do we show respect for others? Can we recognise respect when it is present or absent from a working relationship?

So,

What Is Respect All About?

Respect is a positive and desired behaviour towards somebody or something that is considered significant. When you pay attention to someone`s worries, needs, and feelings, you’re in the process of showing respect.

Why Is It Important to Show Respect to Others?

Being respected makes us feel safe and it teaches us how to respect others.
If we are being respected, then we can truly be ourselves. That’s because it implies that you accept someone despite all of their shortcomings and views.
A lack of respect is the reason why some relationships don’t work. So, it is advisable to respect each other; only by following this advice will you feel a sense of confidence, safety and happiness.

How Do Others Feel When You Show Respect?

It’s an amazing feeling! Being respected is pleasant, no matter who shows you respect, whether a friend or a stranger. When you respect people, you validate them, they are encouraged and it helps improve relationships.

How Can You Respect Yourself and Others?

Don’t mistake self-respect with self-esteem. A feeling of being loved comes from respecting ourselves. As soon as you learn to respect yourself and your own needs, you will be able to show respect to others. You can respect yourself by hanging around positive people and being friendly.

Self-respect is the foundation of all healthy and strong relationships. When you accept yourself with all your strengths and flaws, it will change how others perceive you. Know who you are and how much you’re worth. That way, you will not allow anyone to treat you any less.

Here are a 4 tips that will help you improve your self-respect.

How to Improve Self-respect

#1 Find Out What Respect Is

First of all, take a deep look into your inner world and figure out what gives you a feeling of being the best version of yourself. Then put yourself first when prioritising things in your daily schedule. For instance, you can meditate first thing in the morning before turning on your computer to start work.

#2 – Accept Reality

Accept things and individuals the way they are. Everyone has a good side and a bad side; we need to accept not only the positive side of people but also the negative side of our loved ones, ourselves and the situations we find ourselves in. Failing to do so will make the situation worse.

#3 – Listen and Pay Attention

Listening is a skill you need to master as a social worker. If you respect a person, you tune in to what their concerns are. You follow their views and the points they raise in a conversation. Do not focus on your mobile phone or the person standing/sitting next to you. Look at the person in the eye, paraphrase and summarise at the end of a conversation to indicate active listening. Everyone appreciates a person who shows genuine interest and listens to them.

#4 – Be Helpful

Offering some advice or support will mean a lot to a friend, a person you support or a colleague at work.

How to Show Respect in 7 Simple Ways

Here are 7 simple strategies to show your respect for others, by doing so, you can improve your relationship with others.

Respect Yourself First!

When you behave with honour and dignity, you are showing self-respect. You can achieve this by respecting your beliefs and values.

Respecting your interests – value the things you are interested in doing. Do not hide your hobbies or passion and make time for them.

Respect your word – Words are free. It’s how you use them that may cost you. So, stay honest and openly communicate about how you feel.

Respect your boundaries – Learn to say no to people by knowing what your limits are. You will be taken advantage of if people realise you are easily manipulated.

Respect your fears – Face your fears head on and do not run away from them. According to the icon Judy Blume, “each of us must confront our own fears, and must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.”

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience you pause and face head on. You can say to yourself, “I have lived through this horror. I can make it through the next thing that comes along”.

Engage With Individuals and Get to Know Them

We are individuals with unique characteristics. When you engage, you learn that people are different, and this helps you learn to respect these differences.

Serve Others

Serving others to make their lives better will help improve your life too.

The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something for others. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you before you help others. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, and you will fill yourself with hope.

Politeness

I consider politeness the starting point of showing respect and it can change our lives. Politeness is something you owe other people, because when you show a little courtesy, everything becomes easier and better. I would like to share my favourite quote about politeness by Arthur Schopenhauer –

“It is a wise thing to be polite; consequently, it is a stupid thing to be rude. To make enemies, by unnecessary and willful incivility, is just as insane a proceeding as to set your house on fire. For politeness is like a counter–an avowedly false coin, with which it is foolish to be stingy.”

Encourage

Encouragement is also a fantastic strategy to show respect.

If you have a busy and challenging day, a little encouragement may change everything. When someone tells us: don’t worry, everything will be ok, we get some energy boost. A smile and a word of encouragement can change our grim mood on a bad day and impact on the lives of others too. According to Michael P. Watson,

“Strong people don’t put others down… They lift them up.”

Congratulate

Congratulating someone is important. If you are a leader or a manager, it is essential to let your employees know that they’re doing an outstanding job. It can help improve relationships among staff. In social work, congratulating a person you are working with on an achievement is a way of respecting and supporting them.

Thankfulness

Thankfulness is a way of showing gratitude. When someone shows you gratitude, helps you or just acknowledges your achievements, always thank them. Always be thankful because it is a remarkable way to show respect to people around you.

Conclusion

With the daily pressures on all of us, most of the time, we forget to thank and compliment people we meet. So, don’t hold back, show your gratitude and appreciation. Doing so will not only make others feel better, but will also make you feel uplifted as well!

And for one last time……..

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me

R-E-S-P-E-C-T take care, TCB, oh……

(Sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me)

A little respect

(sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me)

I hope this article has been helpful. Please let me know if you have any other ideas to show respect in the comments section below.